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Not Your Audience: Learn the Art of Letting Go

Changes are an inevitable and crucial part of life. Be it positive, enriching, and constructive changes or the one that teaches you a vital life season, both help you define your life.

But, not every new element in life is worth holding on to. That’s when the art of letting go comes in handy.

Although age and experience can ease the process of letting go and moving forward, allowing ourselves to fully let go and look forward to our future with optimism and excitement can be challenging.

So, let’s dive deeper and find what resistance is? How to know your audience? And when is the right time to let go?

Defining Resistance

Have you ever had a dream you change your life and pursue one that is positive, enriching, adn constructive, but your own self-defeating behavior comes in the way?

In psychology, this phenomenon is called “resistance.”

Usually, change is always accompanied by resistance. Whether we want to change something small (like running a mile every morning) or large (like quitting smoking or quitting a job to pursue our passion), we are faced with resistance.

Although resistance is common, it continues to surprise, frustrate, and confound us despite all our best efforts. Unless it is addressed, resistance not only makes change more difficult than it needs to be, it can also sabotage your well-intentioned efforts and make you feel like a failure.

But, the good news is, recognizing, managing, and overcoming resistance is a skill you can learn.

How to Overcome Resistance?

Resistance is sure to occur, and not just once, but at a number of instances. Therefore, overcoming resistance is an important life skill for a more fulfilling life.

So, here is the 5-step process to overcome resistance:

  • Expect Resistance: You are sure to encounter resistance, so better be prepared for it. Try making a list of resistance you have experienced in the past and one you are likely to face in the foreseeable future. This will help you eliminate the element of surprise.
  • Prepare for Obstacles: Unexpected obstacles will exacerbate resistance dramatically. Therefore, prepare and plan for things that might hinder your desired change.
  • Why you Need/Want the Change: Getting engulfed in the busy needs of life and forgetting why you need the change is easy. Therefore, to counter this, practice writing down the benefits and disadvantages of change and how it can benefit you. Then, define and solidify your “why” with compelling reasons for least resistance.
  • Build a Support Team: Change can be scary. Therefore, before you head on the journey of change, establish a support network of trusted friends, family, colleagues, or an in-person team. Share your struggles with this team and ask for their advice when resistance intensifies.
  • Learn and Adjust: REgardless of your best tools and optimism, there will always be a level of resistance to any new change. Therefore, try not to fight, instead accept and adjust according to it.

Not Your Audience

Not every opportunity in front of you or every person who comes to your life is meant to stay. Though, as humans, you always tend to struggle with resistance, you can choose to fight if you feel the reward is worth the hassle.

But, when should you decide to stop fighting and move on?

Phoenix Ash from Life as P talks about knowing your people, truth, and your true audience.

For example, getting into a relationship with a person where you are expected to sacrifice your persona value and change yourself head to toes into someone you are not simply mean the relationship is not for you.

The partner may be a great fit for someone, but you need someone who understands and values your choices.

As Phoenix says, “You need a person who appreciates things about you, without having to pick you apart.”

The same goes for your career and all the other choices you make in life. But, when is the right time to let go?

Time to Let Go

Every one of us has had to let go of something at some point. Whether it be a pet, friend, boyfriend, or simply finishing high school. We are always ending chapters in order to begin new ones.

Though letting go and moving forward can be easier with age and experience, fully letting go and looking forward with optimism and excitement is a challenge. So often, we fixate on “what used to be” and idealistically cling to the past as though it had everything.

But, how to know when it is just resistance or the time to let go?

Here are four questions you should ask yourself whenever you find yourself standing at a crossroad:

  1. Is there a feeling in my gut that this dog simply won’t hunt?
  2. In six months, how important will it seem to me?
  3. Two years from now, how crucial will it seem to me?
  4. Could I spend my time and energy more productively and enjoyably right now?

You should let go if you answered yes to 1 and 4 or if you answered “not much” to 2 and 3.

Wrapping Up

When one door closes, another one opens. So whether it is an end of a job or relationship, there is always ample opportunity waiting for you next door.

The most important thing to remember is that tomorrow is another day. Furthermore, it is important to remember that life is a journey, and although one day may be difficult for you, each day brings the chance to experience something completely new. So make each day count by looking forward to what lies ahead.

Let yourself cry when you need to, but then on the other side, go back to focusing on what’s present and creating your ideal life. Afterward, release some of that energy by doing something you enjoy — dancing, playing music, running, crafts, writing… simply, want life!

Tune In for More

Phoenix Ash from Life as P podcast talks about resistance, knowing your truth and audience, and moving on in the right situation.

This article aimed to cover the essence of the show. However, for a full dive into the topic, tune in and listen to P breaking up the concept most simply and authentically possible.

Changes are an inevitable and crucial part of life. Be it positive, enriching, and constructive changes or the one that teaches us a vital life season, both help you define your life.

But, no new elements in life are worth holding on to. That’s when the art of letting go comes in handy.

Although age and experience can ease the process of letting go and moving forward, allowing ourselves to fully let go and look forward to our future with optimism and excitement can be challenging.

Let’s dive deeper into the topic and find what resistance is? How to know your audience? And when is the right time to let go?

Defining Resistance

Have you ever had a dream you change your life and pursue one that is positive, enriching, adn constructive, but your own self-defeating behavior comes in the way?

In psychology, this phenomenon is called “resistance.”

Usually, change is always accompanied by resistance. Whether we want to change something small (like running a mile every morning) or large (like quitting smoking or quitting a job to pursue our passion), we are faced with resistance.

Although resistance is common, it continues to surprise, frustrate, and confound us despite all our best efforts. Unless it is addressed, resistance not only makes change more difficult than it needs to be, it can also sabotage your well-intentioned efforts and make you feel like a failure.

But, the good news is, recognizing, managing, and overcoming resistance is a skill you can learn.

How to Overcome Resistance?

Resistance is sure to occur, and not just once, but at a number of instances. Therefore, overcoming resistance is an important life skill for a more fulfilling life.

So, here is the 5-step process to overcome resistance:

  • Expect Resistance: You are sure to encounter resistance, so better be prepared for it. Try making a list of resistance you have experienced in the past and one you are likely to face in the foreseeable future. This will help you eliminate the element of surprise.
  • Prepare for Obstacles: Unexpected obstacles will exacerbate resistance dramatically. Therefore, prepare and plan for things that might hinder your desired change.
  • Why you Need/Want the Change: Getting engulfed in the busy needs of life and forgetting why you need the change is easy. Therefore, to counter this, practice writing down the benefits and disadvantages of change and how it can benefit you. Then, define and solidify your “why” with compelling reasons for least resistance.
  • Build a Support Team: Change can be scary. Therefore, before you head on the journey of change, establish a support network of trusted friends, family, colleagues, or an in-person team. Share your struggles with this team and ask for their advice when resistance intensifies.
  • Learn and Adjust: REgardless of your best tools and optimism, there will always be a level of resistance to any new change. Therefore, try not to fight, instead accept and adjust according to it.

Not Your Audience

Not every opportunity in front of you or every person who comes to your life is meant to stay. Though, as humans, you always tend to struggle with resistance, you can choose to fight if you feel the reward is worth the hassle.

But, when should you decide to stop fighting and move on?

Phoenix Ash from Life as P talks about knowing your people, truth, and your true audience.

Getting into a relationship with a person where you are expected to sacrifice your persona value and change yourself head to toes into someone you do not simply mean the relationship is not for you.

The partner may be a great fit for someone, but you need someone who understands and values your choices.

As Phoenix says, “You need a person who appreciates things about you, without having to pick you apart.”

The same goes for your career and all the other choices you make in life. But, when is the right time to let go?

Time to Let Go

Every one of us has had to let go of something at some point. Whether it be a pet, friend, boyfriend, or simply finishing high school. We are always ending chapters in order to begin new ones.

Though letting go and moving forward can be easier with age and experience, fully letting go and looking forward with optimism and excitement is a challenge. So often, we fixate on “what used to be” and idealistically cling to the past as though it had everything.

But, how to know when it is just resistance or the time to let go?

Here are four questions you should ask yourself whenever you find yourself standing at a crossroad:

  1. Is there a feeling in my gut that this dog simply won’t hunt?
  2. In six months, how important will it seem to me?
  3. Two years from now, how crucial will it seem to me?
  4. Could I spend my time and energy more productively and enjoyably right now?

You should let go if you answered yes to 1 and 4 or if you answered “not much” to 2 and 3.

Wrapping Up

When one door closes, another one opens. So whether it is an end of a job or relationship, there is always ample opportunity waiting for you next door.

The most important thing to remember is that tomorrow is another day. Furthermore, it is important to remember that life is a journey, and although one day may be difficult for you, each day brings the chance to experience something completely new. So make each day count by looking forward to what lies ahead.

Let yourself cry when you need to, but then on the other side, go back to focusing on what’s present and creating your ideal life. Afterward, release some of that energy by doing something you enjoy — dancing, playing music, running, crafts, writing… simply, want life!

Tune In for More

Phoenix Ash from Life as P podcast talks about resistance, knowing your truth and audience, and moving on in the right situation.

This article aimed to cover the essence of the show. However, for a full dive into the topic, tune in and listen to P breaking up the concept most simply and authentically possible.

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